Of all of the important matters that need to be assessed and settled in
child custody can be the most sensitive and significant. It's common for parents
to enter this process with specific outcomes in mind—and to also
be surprised how their own, seemingly unrelated behavior has undermined
their goals. Let's take a look at five most common child custody mistakes
that occur during the divorce process.
Insulting Your Spouse in Public (and Online)
It's normal to be on less-than-perfect terms with your spouse as you
enter the divorce process, but when it comes to child custody, the court
wants to see that you can encourage your child's relationship with
your co-parent. Badmouthing your spouse in public (including social media)
does not indicate that you are ready to do this.
Coaching Your Child
If your child is old enough, the court will likely take their custody preference
into consideration if parents cannot agree on arrangements. When doing
so, the court is interested in the child's genuine wishes, not rehearsed
answers that one parent has primed their child to give.
Living with a New Romantic Partner
It is not unheard of for one or both parents to already be moving on to
other partners before their marriage is officially dissolved. Still, it
is highly advised that parents refrain from cohabitation with these partners.
The court wants parents to provide as much continuity to their child as
possible-- and living with new adults is not part of that continuity.
Making Parental Decisions Alone
In the middle of a divorce, it's normal for a family's routine
to be somewhat upended while arrangements are decided and transitions
are made. Still, it is important that parents continue to cordially collaborate
on parental decisions. Making these decisions alone only demonstrates
to the court that you are unwilling to participate in sharing parental
Being Overly Aggressive
It is not in the court's interest anymore to simply award custody to
one parent and not the other. The court wants parents to continue to collaborate
and share as many burdens and joys of parenting as possible. That is why
clients who insist on sole custody—either to leverage bargaining
or punish their spouse—will often find their demands rejected.
If you are facing a divorce and have child custody concerns, having a dedicated
and knowledgeable advocate by your side is essential. At
Audu Law Firm, we make our clients divorce goals a priority and ensure that their interests
and concerns are heard before the law.
We are ready to help you navigate this uncertain time.
Contact us today to speak with our skilled Sugar Land divorce attorney.